I get that. I lived what you are going through for two and a half years.
There are folks responding to your posts with an immense amount of experience and insight. Some of those posting have been successful at winning their spouses back (myself included) and only come to these boards to pay it forward. I responded to your post so that I could offer you my opinion, with the hope that you too would successfully win your wife back in a very difficult circumstance. I can see that you are very defensive when you get answers that you don't like. Perhaps it is this type of interaction with your wife that is repelling her? Food for thought.
I will heed your wishes and stay away from your situation. Best of luck.
