This life is more than ordinary

[reachingHigher]

These are interesting posts to read from my POV.

My H moved out...your W's are home, the gender is different. I think some guys, most guys, need that physical connex and H was longing to have that back. I hate to say it, but it can be a motivating factor.

Doesn't sound like some of these MLC W's need "it" so much.

Also, from my sitch,, I didn't really feel as much "limbo" without movement. Looking back, my H steadily moved toward distancing us and wanting D. It seemed forever, at the time, but looking back, it was really not that long.

But we had the three years of depression and anger leading up to replay. During that time period there were good and bad times. And I'm sort of glad I didn't find DB then. I don't think I could've waited so long.

It's so worth it now. There's a bit of me inside that thinks I deserve to be treated like a queen for all I put up with! I know he was in a lot of pain and agony but I wasn't him. And the kind of M you want to come back to is a stronger, improved version. Not a wishy-washy...I-couldn't-find-anything-better-than-you version.

My H said that .... I looked and couldn't find anything better....but he acts like I'm the treasure beyond measure. Pretty much anyway.

I do miss the limerence part ... I was hoping that would be part of the coming-back reconnection package, but it wasn't. But it's more satisfying than that.

Just wanted to add my 2 cents from this side of it.

I really admire anyone standing one more day, one more week, in their M in limbo. It's a real character-building experience!