I am just not use to how awful he has been to me. I am not confrontational and have been a good wife taking care of him.
And he speaks to me like he does not like me all of a sudden.
Whether he is MLC or WAS, this is typical behavior. I know that probably doesn't make you feel any better, but please understand that we have ALL experienced this, some to a greater extent, some to a lesser extent. After BD the WAS is not the same person they were even a day before BD. You've got to accept that the H you knew is gone, replaced by this new version that treats you poorly. He is not going to just snap out of it either, this new version is here to stay for quite some time. The sooner you accept this the sooner you will let him go and focus on the only thing you can control- you.
As Cadet and Accuray said, your M is gone. Too many people on these forums get stuck because they're trying to cling to a M that is simply dead and gone, never to return. DB'ing is about letting go of that old M, and making yourself the best person you can be with the hopes of maybe attracting your spouse back some day into a new relationship and eventually a new marriage. But for now, accept that your M is done. Sit down with your H to discuss things if that's his request, and try to do it with as little emotion as possible. Don't make any concessions to him though, if he's pushing for D then tell him you don't want to agree to anything until you've consulted a L. It's time to toughen yourself up for what you're about to go through.
