I think I was doing good yesterday. I got more sleep last night One thing which still bothers me a lot is that H texted a lot using his iphone. I guess he talked to the OW online. Everytime when he was texting or checking his messages, he stepped to the other room or he turned off the iphone's screen immediately if I was around. He completely closed me out. I know he needs space and time, and I didn't mean to spy on him, but still these behaviors hurt me a lot.
My H used to do the same thing. If it was someone he was ok with me knowing about he'd tell me who he was texting, if he didn't say anything and turned his phone around so only he could see I knew it was OW. And he'd try and "play nice" by leaving his phone on the table if we were out someone so I would know he wasn't texting or calling. The only thing is he wouldn't do it until after 11pm and he never spoke to OW after that time. Guess he thought I wouldn't notice that.
Try to keep up your PMA and definitely try to relax and get plenty of sleep. If you're tired, you'll get stressed so much easier.
Stay strong.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Hi 180 & NotQuitting, thank you both for your support. I am trying to be stronger.
Anyone here can advice me how to deal with your spouse's EA/PA when your spouse trys to hide it? Your advices are really appreciated.
Sorry I can't help with that one - I never suspected a thing until BD when H confessed to EA, then a few days later confessed to PA. He said he couldn't live with the lies any longer - go figure!
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I would try to ignore it if you can peace You don't want him to become defensive about it and fall out with you. You may want to say to him, I'm not bothered what you do anymore, just don't hurt our children. Just my two cents worth, has anyone else got any suggestions?
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Peace, sorry to hear about this You need to set some boundaries. He can't bring her anywhere near your home, it is not fair on you or the kids. It must be an awful sitch to be in, especially when he is still living with you Other than setting boundaries, I don't know what else to suggest. How did you hear about the OW? Did H tell you or someone else? If H told you then it's ok to set boundaries, but otherwise he may deny it and it will cause more problems. I'm sure the vets on here will be able to sdvise you better than I can. Take care of yourself and the kids
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
No, he didn't tell me. I found out by myself. But it is for sure. He flied to visit her last weekend and refused to tell us where he is, and now she will fly here to meet him again!
M 18 yrs 5 & 7 yrs old kids H DB in 4/2013 H moved out in 11/2013
I hope someone else comes onto this thread soon and helps you out If you do want to tell him what you know, just be careful, she may just be a friend. You'll have to be 100% certain before you start confronting him about this Take advice from the vets on here, they might be able to offer you a better solution
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
You need to set some boundaries. He can't bring her anywhere near your home, it is not fair on you or the kids. It must be an awful sitch to be in, especially when he is still living with you