Quick question: how can you tell for sure that your H is in MLC, and not just a jerk who's sick of being married to you?

All I've read about MLC seems to fit my H to a tee. When I read about the techniques for surviving your spouse's MLC, I feel relief and clarity. And I believe I am strong enough to wait it out. In other words, MLC just FEELS like the right approach to take.

But I can't help but think--what if I'm wrong? What if it's not MLC? What if what I interpret as MLC is actually his permanent, new self? What if he just wants me out of his life?


Me 47, H 39
D 13, S 11
M: 17 years
T: 19 years
H's PA began: Oct 2012
Bomb: 02/13
Moved to MP: May 2013