No wonder you're confused, my post made no sense. See, it happens.
Don't read more into that than what you know to be true.
And don't take as gospel everything your "friends" are telling you. Lot's of people love the drama of other people, there's a whole reality TV industry which capitalizes on that. Sometimes they even stir the pot when things get boring.
The others are right focus on you, don't judge your wife, don't try to analyze your W. Get busy creating your happy life.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss