The problem is we have friends living with us and be went out with H that night and go wife who lives with us wasn't upset at all and fine with him going so it's hard to talk about it bothering me when it didn't bother her! But at the same time her H came home at 2 not 3:15. I expected them to come Home at the same time given they live together but no.
these are two completely different situations and its wrong to compare them, and does you no good.
the other couple have a separate and different relationship. she trusts her husband and her husband respects her enough to come home at what they've determined is a reasonable hour.
on top of that, they are also living with you and may be putting on an act so that you dont see any of their conflicts.
you cant know what goes on in their true private lives so a comparison is faulty at best.
again, trust yourself, learn to respect yourself more. your feelings and opinions are valid. your concerns are well founded. stand for what you believe, and dont be scared to stick to it.
what many people miss, and i missed when i was going through this, and this is very important:
he cannot respect you if you don't respect yourself.
standing up for yourself and showing that you respect yourself, demands respect from your husband. of course, he's not going to like that, because he wont be getting everything he wants from you, and he will push back and there will be more manipulation and childish tantrums, but eventually he will learn.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
