Two Roads Diverged In a Yellow Wood... Part 2

[chasingpavements]

Hi Angela, your story does sound similar to mine! I went through the same thing this summer where H bounced back and forth, telling me he wanted to separate, then not separating. It is so hard to go through!! We also did a 'trial separation".. ugh!

I do often wonder where my R stands at the moment, although I am trying to work past that. I have a tendency to blurt out things in the heat of the moment that get me into trouble! lol. So lately I have been applying the 24-48 hour rule, where if something is bothering me I will think about if for a couple of days before bringing it up to H. That has helped alot!

For now I have given up trying to know the status of our relationship. Because I now realize that he doesn't know and that it will take time. And me pressuring him for an answer only causes more problems!

I am so glad that my posts helped you yesterday. I was at a point before where I was so ready to give up on everything and I held on. Eventually things got better, and they are slowly improving. Everyone on this forum says that it's a marathon not a sprint..