Really need your help

[willbwell]

Go see the counselor regardless if h goes. it will help you. I also told my h no nighttime talks. I do try as best as I can to prepare myself beforehand. the wise vets will tell you validate what your h is saying. In my sit, we are separated. when talk of d comes up, I say, I understand but it is not what I want.
be prepared, even if afternoon talks ,you still have to get dinner for your kids.I couldn't just go climb under the covers like I wanted to I thank God for my kids because that is where I keep my focus.

I did not want to believe that my h could be having an a. I do still struggle with that. I had asked h to just be upfront and honest with me. I don't want to believe h can lie so easily. but they do. a are addiction. I am trying to have patience and compassion and be the better option which I know I am!

also, btw, I went thru for IC'S before I found a good fit for me.