if the group were just a social thing it would have been easier. He has allowed it to take over - that's what he has become, a fictional character. so much easier to make something up than to deal with lifes realities.
AA, I know the pain.i know the spinning. there are days when I just think ok...I just have to get thru. I get up, I go to work. I will not allow the sit to take over my life. and then I will have made it thru another day. I try and look for some small blessing...not in the situation but in life...its not too hot today or, hey, traffic wasn't too bad today or , wow the sky ir really blue just something that I can appreciate... hang in there. we know your turmoil.thank goodness for this site where you can share!
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
The emotional turmoil is making me question so much of our past relationship, but truthfully it was good. Have to pack the memories in a box for another day and deal with the here and now. Easy to write not so easy to put into practice. I guess it will be like getting through any other situation with his MLC, baby steps...
Give yourself some time. This is so new. Most of us had that feeling of being punched in the stomach when we found out about the affair or had the bomb drop. You, however, had a knockout punch. Emotional turmoil sounds like a perfectly healthy feeling to have right now. Just take care of yourself until it gets better. It will.
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
Received a phone call - on a sunday OMG - usually he only contacts me during office hours. However now I know why. We have had a cash offer for the house that he intends to accept.
What happened to discussion? Reaching a joint decision, for a property we own equal shares in...
First time we have spoken since he married. You couldn't call it a conversation. No niceties, just down to business, less than a minute call. Perhaps the wife was there?
I am so tempted to make this difficult for him. Not sure what I would gain, but it may make me feel better. Better sleep on it. Seeing the C tomorrow.
Heather, thanks so much for stopping by. I have been busy making plans for me - that is until today...
We accepted a cash offer on the house, which coincided with my sister buying an investment property to rent - which she and her husband agreed I could stay in until such time as I found a place to buy myself, all good stuff.
I got home an hour or so ago, after a good session with my C, to find a message from the Estate Agents to say the buyers have withdrawn their offer!!!
No idea why, the survey was due to be done tomorrow.
So... Where does that leave me? Floundering to say the least. I have had enough of this cr*p. For the first time since BD I had plans just for me, for the future - doable and seemingly the 'right' thing. Now I have to sit back and wait - who knows for what..!
I'm sorry the plans fell through......maybe a better offer is coming through?
Keep making plans for yourself and hoping the best for you
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
