I understand the standing up for myself idea, which you have written so often about, and did not mean for you to do so again. Thank you for the universal response "I (verb) how I like to".
How about this, hot off the press: we had waffles on the weekend, and a screw fell out of the iron when cleaning it up. The screw remained on the counter while the waffle iron was put away.
Today my wife says, noticing the screw, while I am in charge of our bird killing cat outside, "could you please see if this screw fits the waffle iron?" and I say "not just now, as I am busy with the cat outside, but I will look at it". W says "you'll never fix it", to which I respond, with a bit of heat, "I am putting the iron and screw on my desk, where I can't ignore it".
A half hour later, after taking care of the cat issue, I examine the iron, determine that the screw is in fact from it, but stripped, and that we probably need a new iron, and tell W so. She says nothing.
Should I have been angry? The verbal push back could be emotional, for example by saying "thank you for your faith in me" in response to her "you'll never..." statement, or just factual, as I did. It seems you are saying that she wants the emotional, arguing, angry, one? My response can be reasonable (and I think the universal response above is reasonable) or (outside the comfort zone) emotional.
Thanks,
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
