Hi Cadet, I already sent an e-mail to H asking him if he would consider giving an hour of his time with the new counsellor before I saw your response. I hope that this does not go against the DB rules. But, if he does not respond or says no to the session, I will still go on my own because I need it for myself regardless of what he does. I would really like for him to come because it would show me that part of him still wants to resolve our situation.
DB rules are to do what works and 180 what doesnt So you can try and see. But have no expectations.
If he doesnt come then just let it go.
As far as your kids, what do you want to tell them?
How much do they know, and whatever you think that is, they probably know more. Kids are usually pretty intuitive. They know you are upset and that effects them. I would try to put on as strong a face for them as possible.
If you are strong and confidant then they will be better with it all.
