my husband denied events that I remember vividly...very vividly. I recall what I was doing at that moment too...
he honestly has no recall. When I filed for a sep it was to protect our assets b/c h was spending like he'd won the lottery (and NOT taken a six figure cut in pay to join the heroes on the "Last Frontier"...)
Two years ago, he blurted out that HE was "so glad WE didn't 'invest' all our assets up there b/c WE would have lost our house"...
(That's b/c the 'heroes' went out of business and everyone EXCEPT them, lost their shirts)...
so H had no actual recall of WHY "we" could not invest our home, which was b/c he'd need my consent...
I was silent, once again realizing that saying nothing might be the best or most loving thing to Not say.
Rock, I still feel your w could and would have "learned" So much more by staying in the church.
All the times you speak of the humiliation of her affair, which she denies...but I thought you meant HER humiliation, not yours.
Why are YOU ashamed of her having an affair?
If it reflects on you then remove the reason for that. IF it does not reflect on you,
then hold your head high and let your wife learn lessons from LIFE, not you.
And as much as you are "certain" she is having a PA with "all the OMs", which sounds odd to me (it would be different if it were one man, but few women "fall in love" with several OMs)
and her saying she "hates sex" is an interesting comment. She did not say she hates it "with you", but just sex in general. WAWs around here usually say sex was lousy UNTIL the OM, and their "real love"...
In fact I can't think of any wife who seems to be with OM(s) also saying she hates sex. Certainly not bringing a lot to the table as a new partner, is she?
Hates sex, gets VERY busy parts of the year and has kids...
something does not ring true or "right" in there. But who knows?
Focus on your own things. Your comment about being a better h was mostly about being better treated by your next wife and that was not what I was looking for. Even the comments about your appearance are superficial but still good goals.
Why not dig deep and find that streak in you that we see, which you deny?
Might there truly be some bitter resentment in there that is disguised as righteous indignation?
Just asking...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
