Hi Mimi, I just wanted to tell you that I am right there with you on learning bad habits from my parents. In reading your sitch I'm happy that another person around the same age is going through something similar as me. My H and I have been married just about 4 years and we have no children. It seems like a lot of the sitch's on here are WAW or MLC. Although I can relate to them in some aspects, they are very different circumstances. From reading the posts on here there are so many wonderful people to support us, and the veterans are wonderful! I am getting so much wisdom from them.
I too have a hard time detaching and the no contact, it's so hard! I try to tell myself to be patient! Keep GALing and come on here to get inspiration, we are all here for you :-)