Hi MP, I still have a lot to learn as well. I'll try and pop by your thread later. It took a lot for me to open up on a forum of any sort but I wish I'd done it sooner than I did.

My H hasn't "thought that far ahead" in his words regarding D but the separation agreement was signed today. I haven't closed the door yet but I'm not making promises to anyone as to how long it will stay open. The man I'm married to right now (or should I say separated from) is not the same man I married in 1997. Once in a while I get a glimpse of that man so I know he's still in there but right now he's not able to get out.

Both 50
S14
M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)

ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012
H moved out - 27 Jun 2013
Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013
Closing the door and changing the locks