Anyway, so in T^2's case or FY's case, don't you feel that if you reach a point where the M is not improving, then it is time to end it?
I do, absolutely. But then I've only been at this for a year and a half. Most people would say that's a long time to stand in a loveless M, but here in the DB MLC forum they'll tell you you're only just beginning! (and they're right, gosh darn it!)
I've read cases where it seemed to me that a stander put up with so much, for so long, that they seem to become paralyzed, unable to pull the plug no matter how bad things got. They basically learned how to stand forever. When and if this happens I believe that it's possible that that person has given up too much of themselves, in an effort to save the M.
I have little doubt that this happens in some cases, and I would hate to have it happen to me.
Yes, I want to give my M the best shot, leave no stone unturned and all that, but I also don't want to look back in 5 or more years and regret that I hung on too long, possibly losing myself along the way.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
