Agree with Bond, I feel like we're running around this three for the third or fourth time. When your W makes nasty statements like this, she is baiting you and challenging you to stand up for yourself. If you don't respond, or respond in a passive-aggressive fashion, you FAIL THE TEST.
She WANTS YOU TO ARGUE AND STAND UP FOR YOURSELF.
For example, when she left the phone book on your desk, and you left it on the floor, that was passive aggressive. What she wants you to do is say "Hey, W, go put that phone book away, you can't leave that crap on my desk!"
When she says your shirt is ugly, she wants you to say "I wear what I like"
When she didn't want you to put the map on your wall and you did it anyway, that was passive aggressive, you're much better served by confronting her and saying, "I like this map, it's going up on the wall"
That's what she wants.
You seem to think that confronting her, challenging her or not giving in to her is going to disappoint her and make her angry, but you have it 180 degrees backwards.
I feel like this has been explained on your thread many times, but you must not believe it. I don't know what else to do.
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
