Husband Threatened to Leave, Don't know what to do

[Lll54]

What happens when he decides that "society" tells him he should be faithful to his spouse, but he just doesn't feel like he's being "true to himself" unless he's free to shag other women? You are giving too much power over your life to him. You, right now, are choosing to live in a state of panic and misery because you are afraid of taking a chance.

I guess this makes good sense. And it's the truth. I'm scared to death to be alone and I'm disrespecting myself to make sure my husband and I don't split up. It's sad.

And as I said before, THOSE moments are perfect for setting boundaries. If he really does want to be a better husband—and isn't just blowing smoke to keep you on the hook—the first place he can start is by learning to LISTEN to you.

Ok so I have it down...boundary needs to be set. Now I guess the issue isn't
Him going out, it's how often and how late. This is where I struggle. Talking to him about it and making an honest boundary without sounding
Controlling or like I'm nagging. I still feel like him going out once a week till 4 am isn't wrong. Am I wrong? It bothers me cause it has never been in his nature. But does that mean its wrong?