That's when she said: "well, you've been this "Father of the Year" and "Husband of the Year" for the past several months. I don't know what to make of that or what to do with that person."
My interpretation: Your DBing is confusing to her. This is good. Who is this new guy?. It is all brand new -- less than 2 months. She needs to live with a new you for some time to believe it's not an act. That you really are committed to permanent changes. Not unreasonable.
If you're considering advice to confront her re OM, then first carefully play out the ensuing scenario(s) in your head. Only YOU can predict your wife's reactions, and your responses to her reactions, and whether this will bring you further towards or away from your goal. Then decide, just don't be impetuous. You can't un-ring a bell.
