I worry that after years of standing we'll never be ready/able to pull the plug... even after it's long overdue. What are your thoughts on this?
That is a tough one. For me, with kids in house, it will always be a battle within to pull the plug, unless they give me some indication that they are done with Mom and Dad's "situation". But, for me, as long as I see some signs of effort/improvement it makes it hard to quit, I'm not a quitter by nature.
What I have learned is that this stuff goes in cycles, so when W seems to regress, or do something different, I wait and see where it goes and if it lasts. Your W may just be in a cycle of taking a break from the internal processing, and thus the stepped up going out is her "mental vacation", or escape and avoid.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
