He got down on himself earlier saying he wishes he was a better dad and better husband but I tried to make him feel better and then he left?
Originally Posted By: TrentC
OK, one of two things is happening here. He is either completely full of crap about "wanting to be a better dad and better husband" and is giving you more hope to cling to, or he's having some kind of existential or midlife crisis.
Third option (or and extension of first listed by TrentC): he's manipulating you to feel sorry for him, to distract you from being justifiably upset/disappointed with him. he's asking for a pity party. which goes along with: "saying this he said he sometimes thinks he needs medication."
watch how he manipulated the situation: he acts immaturely and as a bad husband/father, then he "got down on himself", and your response is to try to make him feel better. then he leaves guilt free, believing he has you fooled and you've been tricked into rewarding him for bad behavior.
this manipulation is simply a method of deflecting you from the real issues. you're then thinking about what this "poor guy is going through" instead of what this "poor excuse of a guy is putting us through".
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
