This life is more than ordinary

[chasingpavements]

My stand is still the same:
-100%+ in if want to reconcile.
-Want a D? Okay, done, sign right here. Love you, you're free.

But this thing does have an expiration date, just not sure when now because the date stamp is smeared ...

Tsquared.. that is my plan as well! (he doesn't know that is my plan). I do have an expiration date as well.. as I can only take so much! I think we are both starting to notice small changes of improvement with our spouses, that is very positive! I feel that I can cope better with my situation so long as things are improving.

But her movements recently, since I actually maybe really detached in a large way, have slowly been matched by mine...a little extra validation, showing just a wee hint of pursuit occasionally, a wee bit more initiation of interaction. The dance. So far so good. And why not? I have nothing to lose by trying on my terms.

BUT, mostly just live my life as much as possible exactly how I want to, and would if she left. Of course I make allowances in some things for the hope of R, or because of kids and financial ties, but not in the critical core parts of me. And that's what matters now.

You are doing exactly as you should! Going on living your life, on your terms. In many ways, I think our situations are very similar!