Everything you need to do to equalize the balance of power in the relationship, make yourself attractive to your spouse again, rebuild your self esteem, etc. is going to be constantly pounded down when you're living with someone who doesn't value you, disrespects you, and carries on with third parties right under your nose.
I'm under the belief that you can take a stand without leaving your home or the WAS. Marriage shouldn't be a power struggle. To me there is nothing more masculine than a man that walks with clarity, authority and demostrates humility. Now having said that that i've never really had to live on the other side of being alpha so it might be different for some. I demand respect, but I also give it now too. As a result my W is starting to come around, and it hasn't been becuase i've done anything other than get back to basics and gotten much closer to Christ. I haven't "DETACHED" but more so "PLUGGED" in to my surroudings without letting my sitch dictate.
No matter what you are going through respond with clarity and authority... And when I say authority doesn't mean it's this verbose character, sometimes being still and quite speaks the loudest. I tell my children often "the loudest one is the weakest one" look in the mirror and tell yourself you will be ok, DEMAND respect but also give it. Love unconditionally(another sign of strength) we can all control our destiny men it will be whatever we say will be.
