Backing off and letting her figure it out, creating a life for yourself separate from W, being so happy in that life that it exudes from every pore, realizing that she's not necessary for you to be happy.

A quote, don't remember the source:

People have got to walk the path and figure it out on their own. Pippen never wore the ring, but he supported Frodo the ENTIRE WAY in his journey to take the ring back to Rivendell.

Don’t do the work for others, or else they will never learn. Support them and hold them up, but we’ve all got our own karma to work our on our own

Support doesn't mean you are physically supporting or even physically present. You can support from your heart and be 1000s of miles away.

Those are things that work and sometimes marriages are saved.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss