Two Roads Diverged In a Yellow Wood... Part 2

[chasingpavements]

CP, don't read too much into him taking a break. I was just reading your last two weeks of posts, and I think that you are about 2 months behind me. I have only just started feeling 'detached' from my W. I no longer obsess about what she is doing or not doing. It's a good feeling. Give it time and you'll get there. You'll worry less about things like him stopping work on the basement.

Thanks FastCars. I am actually glad that he is going to take a break on working on the basement. It will mean that he will have much more time to do family things with us, and help out around the house. Over the past couple of months I had been taking care of most meals, and watching the children, all while he worked away in the basement. For the past few weeks though, he has been helping around the house so much more, it feels great!

We have a lot of good things going for us right now. I still feel sad every so often, and have feelings of wanting to leave once in a while, but what I need to do is keep remembering how far we have come since BD in February. We have a LONG way to go yet, but at least things have gotten better.

I have read through your recent posts and you are doing so good at detaching.. what is your secret? I think I am getting a bit better. For me I do a lot better job at detaching now that he is not acting so depressed and moody. It is SO much easier now that he is acting a bit more like his old self, although I know he is still uncertain about everything.