WR, Mlcers take everything to heart. When we say a projected date for something such as processing a loan, etc., the mlcer immediately thinks that the check will be in hand on that date. They aren't thinking that it takes time to get things done. All they want is their money. I would send him a text and advise him that when you hear something, you will notify him...but until then to please be patient and allow the system to do its work. That you have no control over how long it takes.
Whatever you do, do not tell him that your parents have backed out on the refinancing. He will then push you even harder to get this taken care of.
If he's bugging you about the boys contacting him, tell him that this is between him and the boys. He and the boys will have to work out their situation on their own.
If you choose to ignore his message, he'll continue to text and call...it's best to nip it in the bud now so that he's not bugging you all of the time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
