In my situation, many people who knew us were telling H (before the DB) that they wished they had a wife like me. A lot of people told him he was lucky. During the last couple of years, I think it made him angry though. He didn’t show any emotion when he heard these words. It makes me think that he was subconsciously resisting this. After the DB, I know that our friends were telling him that he didn’t know what he was doing leaving me and he would regret it later. It only made him more determined in his decision. So, I guess these remarks can go both ways. If they are made without a pressure, then they might help in a long run. I’m sure they feel good to you .
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state