My H did the same thing a year ago when he came to the house a few times. He slept in the spare bedroom, but came to the master bedroom to shower and get dressed. He closed the door though.
Also, when he came to me back in April and asked me if I wanted to start the D process, he wanted us to do it together. I told him that I agree with the D, that he can do the paper work on his won and bring it to me, so I could pass it into my lawyer. He was surprised to hear that I consulted with the lawyer by then. So, I’m still waiting for the paper work. I also had an advice from a DB coach to not help H with the D, to let him do it on his own.
I think you are doing good. Yes, do not help him with D, be polite and accommodating , but you’re your boundaries too. If he brings the D subject again, just keep saying what you already told him.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
