I am going to be a little nitpicky if I may. Doing your own thing is great. But if your wife is telling you to find other things to do, while it could be guilt on her part, leads me to believe that you are not going anywhere.
Sorry, that ^^^^^was mistyped. It should say if she is telling you to do things, it leads me to believe that SHE thinks you arent going anywhere. I do not mean that you need to go out more if you do not want to. I think you and I agree that there is a mindset that you need to have and she needs to understand.
Not all GAL's are equal. Do what you value, and what holds meaning for you, not what someone else wants you to do.
I agree completely. ^^^^
OK. That's why I'm thinking I want to get more serious with letting her know I'm not going to hang around forever. I mean, if I am going to bail on her, (and yes I keep feeling like I eventually will) shouldn't I give her a chance to step up first?
Yep, you should give her the chance. I think you and I are on the same page here. Not all sitches are alike, nor are people alike. You know you and her best. And for some it is best to just wait it out, for others it is not. As I said, you saying anything is not going to make or break this thing.
If I have to detach any more then I don't want her. I'd rather be done. At least that's the way I feel sometimes.
I want you to know that I hear you, FY. This is tough stuff. And it is hard to deal with and tolerate at times. It is ok to feel what you feel. And I dont think that anyone should deal with this at the cost of themselves. Your marriage is imporant, but, you matter, too.
Your help is always greatly appreciated. I'd happily pay you for it if I knew you would accept it.
Thank you for that. I am just paying it forward. Happy if I help in some way. You are ok, FY. One of the good ones.
