But I am not so sure, (and I could be wrong, I often am), that she meant disallowing the natural occurences of the situation to unfold. For example, if her father asks both of you to do something and she doesnt want to go, I think it is up to her to explain, ya know? And let them make their own conclusions. That's kinda what I meant by what I said.
Thank you for the clarification. That makes sense and I agree. I don't think I've covered for her in that respect, (not often anyways) but will make sure that I don't.
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am going to be a little nitpicky if I may. Doing your own thing is great. But if your wife is telling you to find other things to do, while it could be guilt on her part, leads me to believe that you are not going anywhere.
All I can say is I'm pleasing myself first, doing things I like to do, finding my own meaning and purpose in life. Sometimes this means going places, sometimes not. "Going Out" is not the only way to find meaning and purpose in our life. Heck, Going Out is exactly what the MLC'ers do, and it seems a dead end for them.
Not all GAL's are equal. Do what you value, and what holds meaning for you, not what someone else wants you to do.
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If someone told me 3 months to 3 years, I wouldnt be at all worried. Just sayin....;)
OK. That's why I'm thinking I want to get more serious with letting her know I'm not going to hang around forever. I mean, if I am going to bail on her, (and yes I keep feeling like I eventually will) shouldn't I give her a chance to step up first?
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I am not implying you should give her an ultimatum. Just think you might need to detach just a bit more.
If I have to detach any more then I don't want her. I'd rather be done. At least that's the way I feel sometimes.
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Hope it helped in some way.
And good for you that you are finding out about the divorce process. Knowledge is power.
You are doing great, my friend. Just gotta ride out the rough spots.
Your help is always greatly appreciated. I'd happily pay you for it if I knew you would accept it.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
