Be sincere in expressing your intentions to W. A false sense of expressing somewhat half-hearted care and concern to W will make her truly mad and you'll be set back in a real bad way. Think of the Candyland and Slides game. One false move and you're way back down to the bottom rung.
Well, my intentions are to help her as much as I can, explain how I feel about her, and to hopefully reconcile. I'm thinking I probably don't want to mention the last two, though, right?
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What do you really want in terms of interacting with W? Think about this carefully. The next few insights will inform you of the next step. Be authentic and genuine. Sometimes things are on W's terms and you'll have to figure out a way to meet her half way instead of insisting on certain things being done in specific, certain ways. It comes across as rigid and inflexible. And I am betting that it is coming across to W pretty clearly and she's picking up on that
I would like to have a face-to-face, honest and unguarded conversation with her about our M. I realize this is a lot to ask. I would settle for face-to-face and honest.
I know what you mean about being rigid and inflexible. If anything, she is the one who has been rigid and inflexible since BD. I have not been rigid or inflexible with her for a long time. My reply to her was a question, not a demand or anything like that.
I'm not sure where to go from here, I have not heard back from her yet.
