Ok, people...I'm on the high part of the roller coaster!
My h invited me to lunch today. Convo went like this:
Me: What's up? H: Nothing. Me: Cut the crap. This is date #2 apparently you have something to tell me. Is it going to upset me? Tell me now so I don't order food. H: No you won't get upset. Me: Ok what is it. H: I'm not going to file for the d. Me: So what does that mean? H: I didn't want the d in the first place and so I'm not going to file now. Me: So this is different how?> H: I don't want the d. Me: So what you are saying is you want your family back and you love us? H: Well I did say I didn't want the d. Me: So you does that mean you love us and want your family back? H: It's different now caus I'm not mad. Me: So next week when you are mad will you file? H: No I won't file. H: You need to do something different with your hair. Me: Don't change the subject. Why is it so hard for you to say those 3 words? You can talk dirty during sex but can't say ILY. Well this was an issue before...lets not make ILY an issue now. H: Why do you get hung up on that? Me: It's what I need from you...an ILY.
We quit to eat lunch. Talk about the food, his work, car insurance, the upcoming soccer game.
As we get ready to leave...convo goes:
Me: so I'm still waiting to hear ILY> H: laughs Me: No really. Tell me. Don't let us go back to what we had before. This issue needs not be one now. H: Ok, ILY. Me: Ok make a habit of saying ILY. ILY. Haven't stopped. H: Humph. Me: Don't act like you don't believe ILY. I'm going to take you at your word, believe what you say...you believe what I say. I'm going to be straight forward with you. Straight talk.
He talks a little about his plans to go to Ohio in June. Also that he will be returning to work on Saturday after the boys soccer game.
We leave for work.
So now what is the next move in this r? My MC says we need to go back to learn come communication skills. I'm not going to push...I think I should definitely wait on h to make the next move or to suggest the next move.
H made no mention of Florida.
I'm excited but extremely wary...you all know how this ride has been...way up then way down! I'm holding onto the bars for dear life right now!
