Help! I'm so hopeless and devastated...

[peaceSJ]

Hi All, thanks a lot for your advices. Yes, you're right. I cannot stop what he wants to do even the affair with OW. His lie really upset me.

Lovethehub, I feel better after reading your posts. I shouldn't let my emotion and stress affect my kids.

180, thank you again for sharing your experience. I almost made the same mistake as you did. I was debating if I should tell my SIL or MIL about our current situation because they knew nothing yet. I was naively hoping they will help stop his affair and ask him to think more about our kids and family. But now I know I shouldn't hold that kind of expectation from them. Finally they'll stand for him not me. Yes, I've decided not to tell his family unless he does it first.

We're still planing to do some decoration for our house. He also asked for my opinion. But my friend warned me not to take it as a good sign. If divorce, I will not afford to live there.