FY, I think if you can do this without reaching that point of filing for D, you are much further ahead of the game when building a R back. I don't think there is any truer demonstration of unconditional love.
T2 is right. You need to further detach. You can let her know what life is like without you, without getting that far. Don't always be there when she gets home. You go out and have fun. Go and see a movie or whatever. Just don't always be there when she wants to talk to you. Don't do this in a mean or spiteful way. You're just busy living life to the fullest. You can give her that feeling without words. You don't have to tell her your patience is running thin. Start making life without her. When she is on FB, just say you're going for a drive sometimes and take off. Start building some interests that are just yours and don't include her. Take a cooking class. (A guy that cooks is super hot.) Be happy and awesome when you're around her. Be in love with life. You'll stop watching the sitch pot and she'll start getting curious about you.
You've come to far to let patience run out now. Cause living like roommates [censored]. Would living alone be better? Don't push that button until that is exactly what you want.
Hi Raine! I do everything I want to do now. Have enough interests that don't have anything to do with W. I really do enjoy my life, just not the disrespectful checked out W part.
But, I have recently started to pull back a little, and will continue to do so, just to see what happens. But since we can't fix 'em, maybe it doesn't really matter what I do.
And you are right, living alone would not be better... and I do think about this often. Still, everyone has a limit. I don't know how some of you do it for so long, many receiving way worse treatment from their spouse than I've gotten.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
