Magic, I agree w/T2. You are in the very early stages of the crisis and you need to be focusing and working on you. There will come a time when you will be able to share w/your man, but it's going to be a long way down the road, that is, if you still want to reconcile.
T2 has been at it for a very long time and his wife is slowly working towards the finish line of her crisis and that's why he was able to discuss things w/her. Had he done it at the beginning, it would not have bode well for them or their relationship. Mlcers are not ready to hear what we have to say about such things until closer to the end.
Magic, be patient and continue to work on YOU.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
