Blindsided Part 2

[chl0901]

Hi, RT! He kept bringing it up for a few days, but hasn't in the last week so hopefully he is over it.

Things are still going really well (at least for the time being). H can't keep his hands off me and we've been more relaxed, talkative, and open. I am still doing my 180s (those are permanent!) and GALing. I'm looking and feeling better than I have in 3 years and still working on looking/feeling even better as my journey continues healthwise.

I'm just going to keep on keeping on and see what happens next. Feeling good for the time being though. Hope everyone has a great week!

[Mimi00]

Glad things are still going well. My prayers and positive thoughts for you two to continue to get stronger and stronger together. Hope your week is wonderful!

[chl0901]

Thank you, Mimi! I hope so, too! And my week has been good so far...I hope yours has been as well!

[chl0901]

I'm still here but not much to update. Things are the same as they have been the past month or so - H is being really great and I am still doing my 180s and GALs and we have been getting along really well. Our beach weekend is in 2 weeks and our cruise is in 4 weeks, so we are both really looking forward to those! It's really hard for me to not let my guard down when things are going well, but I do still have thoughts in the back of my mind that this could all end any day and that really scares me, but I am enjoying this nice time while I have it!

[chl0901]

H has been in a funk the past couple of days - his job is really stressful and he is getting a lot of pressure lately from his bosses (because he is a hard worker, they just keep piling more and more on him instead of splitting it between he and his co-workers). He was snappy with me yesterday evening/night and this morning. He did say last night that he wasn't trying to be an A-hole, but he is really stressed from work so I did appreciate him telling me that so I didn't assume (because I would!) it was me. I'm trying to back off a bit and give him some space while letting him know I am there for him if he needs to vent or talk about work.

I've been so spoiled with H's behavior the past few weeks that seeing a bit of his grumpiness return is a little disappointing, but at least it isn't associated with me and hopefully something can change regarding his work situation (either he changes jobs which would be difficult because he only has experience with this industry which he makes really good money in or he will need to change companies - possibly to his old boss - but it is the same industry and will still be very stressful).

[Not Quitting]

H has been in a funk the past couple of days - his job is really stressful and he is getting a lot of pressure lately from his bosses (because he is a hard worker, they just keep piling more and more on him instead of splitting it between he and his co-workers).

Your H sounds a bit like I used to be in my previous job. I would never tell the boss I was overwhelmed with what I already had to do and would always take on more work. Not always a good thing.

At least you know that is what is causing his funk. Makes it a lot easier knowing you're not the cause

[JuneReN]

You might want to say "thanks for telling me. Anything I can do?" If you haven't already....

[chl0901]

Thanks, NQ and Ruby, for the feedback. I did tell H I was here if he wanted to talk or vent about anything and he has some. He hasn't been as pleasant the past few days, but at least I know (from what he's told me at least) it's not me this time!

He called me when I was at lunch today and asked what I was doing so I told him I was at XX with XX (female co-worker/friend) and he responded kind of snitty and when we were getting off the phone I told him I loved him and he responded, "yeah, yeah, yeah" and hung up. But then he text me about 10 minutes later saying, "I just wanted to say I love you." So that was sweet of him at least!

[Not Quitting]

It's so uplifting to read threads with good news in them. Glad to hear you and your H are getting on at the moment.

I've told my H that I'm here if he needs to talk and also that, even though he's now said he's done trying, I'm still prepared to close that door, at least for now. Tuesday night after he told me he was done trying, he actually gave me a hug for the first time in weeks.

Whatever you've been doing seems to be working, so keep up the good work. Just remember not to rush things.

[chl0901]

Thanks, NQ! It's really nice to hear H say he loves me, after months of not hearing it. I know we have a ways to go, but I like the direction things are going for the most part and am trying to not rush things too much and keep my guard up to some extent.

I am still 180ing and GALing and will continue to do so!