Me: Hey hon, what are the sleeping arrangements tonight? W: What do you want them to be? Me: I'd like to stay in our bed? W: Well, you've been staying on the couch on your dates here. Me: OK, I will stay on the couch tonight.
Yes, I won't sleep in the bed when I am at home with the kids. I can't for some subconscious reason. This isn't the first time she's been bringing up the past. I hear this statement a lot "Well, you always do/did that". THAT was the old me. how can I communicate that I am NOT doing those things anymore?
"W, Yes, I did those things before, and I know how they must have sounded/felt to you. Doing those things didn't make me happy, and I don't think they made you happy either. I want the things we do and say to each other to be condusive of a wonderful, supporting, loving, caring, trusting marriage. ???whut else???"
"Do what you can With what you have Where you are" - Theo. Roosevelt
