There is no OW, he was finished with R and still may be. Who knows?
After the first 6 months or so of separation, we haven't been contentious. Things were pretty dark communication wise most of the time but we've always been civil and mostly respectful.
As I became more OK with my life and me, actually more than OK, happy, I had a different attitude about him. I listen to comedy radio on long drives and hear jokes that I knew he would find funny, so I sent those to him a couple of times. Just the joke clip, no message. Then I needed to have a conversation with him about S20 and invited him out for coffee and we had a great time. We hadn't seen each other f2f for probably 2 months at that time, maybe more. It's hard to remember, in the 2.5 years we've been apart, I'll would guess we've seen each other less than once/month.
After that there was some flirty texting, then seeing each other then...
We haven't talked about the R(I'm not sure if you mean relationship or reconciliation)at all because at this point there is no relationship or at least not the one that existed before. Are we building a R? I don't know. As I said before, I'm very happy where I am but this is also fun and I'm happy to see where it leads.
It's like dating a new person, see what happens.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
