It's difficult for all of us. If she asks for help you could reconsider.
How can you make her have a face-to-face conversation? I think I understand your disappointment because for a long time my H would not be in the same room with me, everything was text or email. But I couldn't force him to do anything and attempting to do so would have been antagonizing. What's the point?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss