@NTX_Dad - I have thought about this, but there is no cake-eating, especially from a financial perspective. I am giving her zero financial support now, and have told her I won't. Also, any debt she incurs will be paid off by her, not me, even if we reconcile and move back in together.

There is also no physical relationship, and the only thing I've really done to help her out is pick up our S5 when he was sick once. But that was fun; got to really hang out with my bubby for the first time in awhile! smile I only watch the kids maybe once every couple of weeks, and only while she's at work, so it's not even like I'm keeping them to give her a party life.

I would probably pay for a date if we went, so maybe she just wants a free date every now and then? Would seem like a pretty paltry reason to stay in a marriage.

I really think it's a battle between what she knows is right, and the immense amount of hard work. In the next three weeks, she is starting a new job and moving; so her excuse was there is a lot on her mind - so starting back into a relationship would be too much. I dunno.