Had a chance to read through your sitch and man are you right, there are some scary parallels! There were times that I literally pushed back from my desk and rolled my chair back a few feet.
yes, I also wonder about the similarities and 'script' between many situations. It is, what it is.
Originally Posted By: CharlieBrown
A couple observations. One, your W seems to spend a lot of time with friend relationships, including other men. Considering the incident in July, has this changed at all?
friendships are very important to her. One reason may simply be to constantly occupy her time and stay busy. She has kept her word as far as I know to break off the relationships that I asked as a condition of coming home. I really believe it was driven by fantasy more than anything else. She hardly knew the guy. I also observed to her that based on the phone records, he never initiated contact. Frankly, I don't think he was that interested in her (But like most any man, if a women throws herself at you, you don't turn her away).
Her other male friends are really acquaintances that she shares a hobby with. I've met them all.
Originally Posted By: CharlieBrown
Also, it seems like your W is going along and keeping the peace, but is she really re-engaged since moving home or is it a "smile and wave, nothing to see here" for her, thinking all is well? Reason I ask is that given her sending in her application, is she just waiting until getting an answer to really confront things, thinking she might be leaving again for school anyway? Just a question, I don't have a suggestion based on it, just trying to understand.
Good questions, and I don't really know. We don't have many relationship discussions and we do not talk that far into the future. My guess is that she has an ongoing internal debate about our relationship. As far as the school, I do not know what she is thinking. She has expressed that her getting admitted is a long shot. So maybe she just doesn't believe that she will be accepted? IDK.
From my point of view, I don't think about it either. I figure we'll cross that bridge when we come to it.
Originally Posted By: CharlieBrown
PS - Love the Bay area this time of year. You guys wine drinkers?
yes, and there are many places with 10-15 minutes of us to go tasting.
