I just wanted to drop by and thank you for your advice on my thread. That was really nice of you especially since you are having such a hard time yourself!
I have nothing to add except listen to Wiley, he gives great advice!
Thanks for coming over. I appreciate your 'company' when I'm feeling blue.
It's so hard to treat him like a friend when I want so badly to kick him in the <>)*&*^^*! ya know?
Anyway, I made it through another day. Tomorrow will be better.
Prayerfully all he is is talk and the d won't land in my mailbox. I'm believing it WON'T!
You are awesome too...I read your thread and am just amazed at how you can treat your h like a real friend....AND be so calm and cool about it. I need to imitate you.
I'm thinking about you!! Some people say take care. I say take charge!!! Make the change !! You can make this work for you. Remember, we can tell you what has worked for us. Only you know what will work for you. Give this some more time and see what happens.
Pattie
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
Well I'm making plans to go party Saturday night with some gal friends. Some single dudes will be there too to hang out with us ! I'm excited!!!
Called h left voicemail to let him know when the kids' soccer game is on Saturday and that he can have the kids for the weekend.
This is a 180 cause I would not let him have the kids outside of court order before.
Let h know I would prefer the boys stay with him cause I will be gone this weekend (did not specify where, when or what) but that h was to call Friday night to confirm boys staying with him. I told h he could talk to oldest s (I will not be home will be partying but did not tell h this) about their plans for Saturday.
I'm going to go about being nice to h, let him have the kids on weekends when they want to go (my youngest does not want to go to his dad's).
Also what do y'all think about h taking kids to Florida for the entire spring break? Our original plan was for all of us to go...h has not called to break those plans but neither has he confirmed. After his convo with me regarding him filing for d, I figured Florida may be out. So my question is this...will I be a doormat if I just let him take the boys without me? I feel as though I should say no cause I'd like to have some time with boys...I did take off from work!
Why not hold off on a decision about FL? If the original plans were for all of you to go, and you have the week off, wait a few days or a week to decide about it. You can always act as if on this one. But, of course, I'm all for having fun!
Good move on letting him have kids for the weekend. You can be certain he will thinking what's up with her !
Pattie
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
I'm going to make my decision when h calls. Until I hear otherwise from h I'm going to believe we are going to FL as a family.
I learned that FAITH is not just believing...it is confessing what you believe, putting it into action and thinking it will happen. Faith is a 'heart' decision that is not swayed by what it sees or hears.
! I'm excited!!!
