You are really right on the money! After reading your post, I realize I feel the same way after I read a text or email. I start to read my own worst fears into every word I read!
Gotta get a way from it and haven't done it in about 3 days. It does feel a bit better not having info to manipulate in my head.
Thanks man! That really helps to hear it from another who is going through the same thing.
Glad I could pass on the wisdom that I learned from others here. There are many of us that are overcoming the self-inflicted injury of snooping. As I'm now learning, it's enough for me to know there's OM/W, and a daily diet of "discovering" the dirty details, or lack thereof, just made me silently, helplessly sick. Keep it up, DD!
You'll see someone called MileHigh posted great supoport based on his similar experience. Might help you too. There's so many great people here -- you might want to look for Sandi2, I found her thoughts to be especially useful.
MileHigh wrote, "Well, whizzed. You've said your piece, and she knows where you stand, and you know about the OM. So, if you want to proceed/continue with DBing, there's no need to confront her further. It's very hard to stop snooping - it was hard for me. I was counting the minutes, then days, without looking at text usage on cell phone account. It gets easier with time.
The WAS needs to make their choice, on their own, and there is often a lot of confusion and reversals in their opinion and reactions toward the LBS. That's why consistency is so important. Every time she sees you, you have to be on track - even if you have to fake it until you make it at first.
I recommend The Divorce Remedy over Divorce Busting, but both are good. Definitely read/study the book. The forum is good as a supplement to the book, but I think the book is essential."
