MrCAS, I hope you're right. This is something I can learn from and recover from. The conversation happened over a few days.. not all at once.

My own interpretation was more like...

W: you missed your opportunity to be there for me last night.

Me: I would love to be there for you, but it is not possible right now.

W: no worries, I got other people I can drink and party with, I don't need you

Me: I'll be home soon, I can be there for you then.

W: too late

Me-45
W-44
T-7 years
M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated)
Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)