Sorry to hear about what you're going through with your H.
Unfortunately, I think most of America has gotten passed the result of hurrican Sandy and we forget that many, like yourselves, are still suffering its effects. I hope things improve for you in that regard as well.
I checked out your back story and saw that you mentioned that some have said you were crazy to want to stay with your H and rebuild your marriage. Remember, it's your choice and your M, not their's. They won't have to put anything into this. It's very easy from an outsider's perspective to make comments like that. They have no skin in the game. Even if they've been through a similar situation, they made their choices, but this is for you to decide.
I know for me, it was an easy choice to commit to saving and rebuilding my M. My W is the love of my life and I accept responsibility for the many mistakes I've made that have contributed to me being in this situation.
Regardless of what she has decided to do in some attempt to fiill the hole inside her or ease her emptiness, I can only work on me and make changes to improve myself. Hopefully, the end result will include my W reconsidering what she has done and perhaps decide that she likes what she sees in me and we can begin to rebuild.
That's what keeps me going.
Vince B M=10 yrs T=13 yrs M45 / H 44 2 Boys 5 & 8 D Day: 7/16/13
