I will never again have the same perception of my W. If you had asked me before BD what her strongest trait was I would have told you "loyalty". I would have said "I trust this woman with everything, even my life." Strip away the loyalty and the trust and who is she? Well, that is who she is right now- not the person I married. I don't know what switch flipped in her, but even if she flipped it back I could never trust her the way I did before BD. Would I want to be married to someone I can't trust and who isn't loyal?
You know, I thought that way right at the beginning, but after reading DB and DR, I want to believe that trust can be restored in a relationship. MWD certainly thinks it can!
I'm a recovering pessimist, and that little voice in my head that I have been trying to ignore since I began my 180s says, "No, she's wrong, you could never trust your W again." And you know what? I wanna prove that negative little SOB in my head wrong. In some areas, I am a very idealistic and black and white person, but I also realize that in a way, that is a pretty unrealistic way to live.
Just some food for thought. Best wishes to both of you.
