I've come to the same conclusion...my h sees me as the bad guy but fails to look at himself as the cause of 50% of the difficulties we have. Whenever I try to ask him what changes he's made recently he can't name anything only to continually tell me how wrong I'm doing it.
I try to be as encouraging as I can with his small changes like calling me back, taking us out as a family, being affection, etc...I make a big deal of it. It has done no good.
You are right...he has some kind of ulterior motive. What that is I do not know. Apparently it is to keep seeing me after d...well it was until I dismissed the d without telling him. Now he says I'm not worthy to date.
His mind is just warped right now. I find some sick satisfaction in that he's finally admitted what has been on his mind all along...to d. It's hard to realize that no matter how much you love someone ultimately they can make a decision that will tear your heart out and act like they never knew you.
It's painful right now. And I dread tomorrow...since tomorrow he said he was going to court to put in for d.
