Jon, it sounds like your W is starting to come out of the fog. What you need to understand is that they don't just emerge and -poof- they're back to loving you and wanting to work on the M. She is at the beginning of a long, slow process that will have a lot of highs and lows. It sounds like she is not quite where she needs to be mentally and emotionally, so what you should do is CONTINUE what you've been doing. Make no effort to convince her to work on the M. Do not reach out to her. Do not sit around patiently waiting for her. Keep up your GAL efforts, keep your focus on you and the kids. Let her work through her demons. Let her do all the work. Like MrBond said, she has to be the one to initiate. Maintain your detachment. You've been doing a great job, just keep doing what you've been doing!
