wife hardends heart-4

[planet]

There is no "secret". Nothing that I'm hiding from you.

It starts with faith. Faith that you believe your M can be saved. It starts with that.

It's hard. I want to have faith. I truly want to believe.
Once W decides then that's that. She never compromises.
I just feel the need to do something about our M and not just focusing on myself. I just don't know what to do.

The "secret" is to become the best person you can become, which means you will be happier in the long run, no matter what your w does. Truly believing that you are going to be fine, regardless, gives a confidence that many find attractive.

It's a paradox in a way.

But I found that when I really let go of my m, turned it over to God, & just worked on ME, that is when my h began his own shift home. Not overnight, but there were unmistakable signs that he had noticed changes in me, which intrigued him.

It is a paradox. Sounds like breaking up this relationship in order to build a new one?

I just think you must KNOW that you will be alright, regardless of your wife's choices.

When I truly believed that, when i KNEW i was going to be happy again, regardless, and began making plans for my new life, an inner peace came to me.

I began looking forward to my new life (& freedom), and then....somehow it radiated from within. I mean it began to show on the outside..

How will I ever know? How long does it takes?
I'm trying to forgive myself. Not one day goes by without feeling regretful.
I'm just standing by, watching my M slipping away.

Now GAL for real.

Yes, Ma'am.
Looked up 'meetup.com'. Will be signing up soon.
There groups for singles only. Looks interesting.
There are also groups for business & entrepreneur meetings. Looks interesting too.
Been swimming after BD.
Still searching for IC. You're right. I really do need to talk to someone.

cross country skiing

Not here.
Do visit Malaysia though. Truly 'Asia'. Nothing like it.

Meet new people, PLEASE....

Overcoming inertia is the hardest part. Once you are out there, you won't regret it.

I will.


On another note, my partner found his 'way' again. At least, some good news.