Well winning cindy is back! I called h up spoke to him in person said hey if d is what you want go ahead.
He commenced to threatening me said I should call my attorney to reinstate the d or it will cost me lots of money cause h would get his own attorney and take revenge on me. I said fine do what you feel is right cause I ain't spending anymore money on something I DO NOT WANT and that I know is not right!
After h hung up on me, I spoke to a mutual friend of mine and h's who said I'm in the best position now to call h's bluff. Our friend does not think h has the guts to go through with it cause friend has seen my h in tears not wanting the d. Friend says h does not want the d and if he does end up getting it it will be all about saving his pride. Cutting off his nose to spite his face!
friend said h is now in the hot seat in that he will have to make the d go and it will not be fun, will cost him a pretty penny to get it. Just as it did me this last year paying for something I didn't want. Now the tables are turned and h will find out the hard way what it will take to file for a d. friend says I should play h's hardball and not make it easy. Just as h refused to sign over and over, costing me more and more since he did not want a d then I should refuse to sign and let this whole thing go to court where it will become 50/50. Even things h has now will come into the marital split. I don't think h really knows what can of worms he opened by taking this refiling as a revenge tactic. The courts are not going to award him anything more than the decree we already have...if anything he'll get less. I told him I no longer care about the equity, the house, the cars, he can have it all and be damned. I want the marriage or nothing but the kids. The rest I'll gladly take half or nothing but the kids and be done with him!
Either way h will be the loser. Sorry to say but it is not like I haven't been trying to do everything I can to avoid the d. I know what d means financially.
I feel confident by the end of all this I'll have my h back. H is as scared as I am...h doesn't know what d means but by me turning the tables and actually wanting the d too will give him pause...a long enough pause for a great wake up call!!!
This m will prevail because now I turn to prayer and God's help more wholeheartedly. It is in God's hands now...and what God has joined together let no man separate. No man! I'm going to believe in God...not in what h says or does.
Here's a kick in the teeth to you devil! You ain't getting this m.
In the end if I have to go down, h will know to the very end that I did not want this d. At least if h files for the d, then everyone will know who the real culprit to our marital demise is.
